Saturday, February 6, 2010

Book Addiction - Conquering Pornography - Overcoming the Addition, by Dennis Frederick

I have read many books on pornography addiction, generally the books are in a "highly recommended" pile or a "not worth your time or money pile". This one would be in the second pile. While I applaud the author for tackling a taboo topic, and from a Christian perspective, I found the book lacked great effectiveness in how it was presented/formatted, as well as the author's generalized comments which did not allow a deeper dig into the topic.

First, the format. I hated how the book was set up like a devotional, with each topic being a page or a page-and-a-half in length, followed by 3 or 4 reflection questions and a Bible verse. Nothing wrong with this in and of itself, but for a book on overcoming pornography, this was a very, very poor way to present the material. One could never dig deeper and get more insight on a topic, since it was pretty much glossed over by the author in general terms. Plus, some of the Bible verses (which were only included in the appendix, which later found out) and not on the page itself, were iffy at best, in terms of its connection to the topic at hand. That is the problem with plucking a verse from here and there - the context is not known, and it makes for sloppy Scripture use.

Second, I really did not learn anything new in this book, aside from a few good points about post-addiction living. Most of what he said can be gleaned pretty easily from common sense; but what I really did not like was how some of his comments seemed trite and not recognizing that pornography addiction has some complexity. When the author makes remarks such as "you must simply stop now!" or "if you are tempted, walk away from your computer", those are not helpful. Most men struggle with pornography and it is not that easy to just quit cold turkey. Also, his recurring comments about wives having a sixth sense, etc., get old and tiring pretty fast. He also tends to take a point (which is debatable) and then proceed to flush it out as if there's no other side.

I had a hard time getting past two two areas of weakness in the book. The book actually did not take that long to read, based on how much white space was left due to its format. I gave this book two stars only because I appreciated a Christian attempt to write a book to address this - I just didn't find it very helpful.

Personally, if you are looking for good, solid Christian books that will help you address the issue of pornography addiction, consider Steven Arterburn's "Every Man's Battle" (there's another co-author I don't recall at this moment) for a practical step-by-step process (and he uses Scripture too, but much more appropriately), and also Harry Schuamberg's "False Intimacy" (this deals with more of what goes on in the spiritual sense - very good book). For a secular step-by-step book which I find very helpful as well, consider "The Porn Trap" by Larry and Wendy Maltz.